"As the recession sends stress levels into the stratosphere, colleagues' weird behavior seem to be getting worse" a statement from Anne Fisher in the TIME article Why Your Co-Workers Act like Children. Sylvia Lafair, a Ph.D. in clinical psychology whose book Don't Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns that Limit Success. Lafair's research shows that," much as we like to believe that our behavior is entirely rational and governed by our conscious mind, our thoughts and actions are often driven by the roles we learned in our families as children. And under pressure, we tend to revert to old patterns."In her book, Lafair describes the 13 personality types she's identified — including the persecutor, the avoider, the clown, the martyr, the rebel — and explains how they got that way, how to work with them and, perhaps most important, how to tell if baggage from your own distant past is weighing down your career. And especially during a time of this crisis more people are averting to their youth ways which can have consequences-especially in a business environment. However, the best solution to avoid these confrontations is to leave it at home.
Questions:
1) Is really possible to leave personal issues at home? There are times when people need to vent and even though it might cause consequences the person is able to hopefully reach an epiphany.
2) The author only states in business these situations may occur. Do you believe this can relate to any career- including high school students with relationships with teachers/counselors?
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Really excellent questions. As the author of the book "Dont Bring It to Work" I would like to underline that it is an illusion to think we can leave our personal issues at home. This is a key premise of the book. We bring the early patterns EVERYWHERE! That means to school, to relationships with friends, to romantic ties. And of course to relationships with teachers, sports coaches,and principles.
ReplyDeleteI am working with a school district to bring these concepts to administrators, trachers, and high school students with the hope we can short circuit the wasted time by learning how to decode these patterned responses earlier in life.
Please remember, the key take away of the book is that once the patterns that cause annoying and disruptive behavior can be observed and understood thay can be transformed to their healthy opposites. Patterns serve a purpose, they lead us to better ways of living!!!